Sexual and relationship violence are traumatic events. Losing a sense of safety and control over one's body and environment can change the way a survivor approaches every aspect of their life. Healing begins when the individual's sense of control returns, and that takes time and support.
Everyone processes traumatic events a little differently. Common reactions include:
List of common reactions
Anger
Feeling numb
Crying
Being extremely calm
Fear
Depression
Anxiety
Isolation
Embarrassment
Problems with concentration and focus
Sleep disturbances
Self-blame
Worrying that others will find out
Not wanting to talk about it
Not wanting to be touched
Not wanting to being alone
Self Care
Self care means caring for yourself as you would a good friend. It also means not doing things that harm you or make you more vulnerable. Because everyone’s reaction to sexual assault is different, there is no one way to practice self care. Planning how you will care for yourself can help if you start to feel overwhelmed. These are some things you may want to make part of your plan.
Self-Care Options
Write in a journal
Make art
Take a walk
Exercise
Eat your favorite food
Read
Breathe
Listen to your favorite music
Wear your favorite clothes
Give yourself permission to feel whatever you are feeling
Resources
Advocates and counselors are good resources, and friends and family can help, but you will do most of the work of healing on your own. There are many resources available online. Here are some suggestions to start with: