All in the Family: Relating to Your Collegian
Students gain support and confidence not only from their parents, but also from siblings, aunts
and uncles, grandparents, and family friends.
- Check in with the student regularly. A quick phone call, card, letter, or email is always
welcome. Students may not call or write back, but they still appreciate messages from home.
- Let the student know you are confident that he or she will be successful.
- Keep the student posted about what’s happening at home.
- Send photos and care packages. If a care package seems like too much trouble, slip a coffee-shop
gift card, chain-restaurant coupon, or a check into an envelope.
- Remember that when there are minor problems, you don’t need to “save the day.” Students
grow when they work through challenges.
- If possible, don’t change your student’s bedroom at home. Students want to return
to their own familiar space for at least the first year of college.
Orbach ’09 is given a multi-generational sendoff at Reed, with grandfather, Tony,
parents Mike and Pam, and sister, Zara.
Stuewe has one last parental duty before drop-off: adjusting daughter Elise ’09’s